Finding The Positives In Your Teenager

Finding The Positives In Your Teenager
Teenagers go through many different stages as they are growing up and often it can be hard to find the positives when your teen is going through a difficult stage.

Your teenager will experience many ups and downs on their path to adulthood and you need to remember that they will make it in the end; they may just need a little guidance from you.

It can be challenging to find positive aspects in your teenager if she is going through a difficult stage. You will feel great concern and will often feel irritated with their behaviour and you may find yourself constantly criticizing and reprimanding her. At this age it isn’t as easy to discipline your child as it was when they were younger, sending them into time out just wont do the trick at this teen age.

So what do you do when your teenager starts dressing like someone out of the Dracula show? How do you react when she comes home with piercings in all sorts of places?

Your children are your most precious possession and it’s only natural that you want the best for them. There are many areas in which you must intervene to protect and guide your children and it can be easy to judge them over everything.

It can make a big difference in your relationship with your child if you are very careful in choosing the right time to pick your battles. Although your teen may be displaying behaviours that you don’t agree with, it is important to look for the positives also. By praising their positives and having a ‘bright side’ to your conversations it won’t make the discipline as hard.

When your child knows that you do appreciate and love many aspects about them, then they will better handle any criticism that you do give them. By emphasizing the positives aspects it will be easier to try to compromise with them about their other behaviours.

Some of the most important aspects of your child’s life are their health and safety, their education and the rules you enforce around the home. If your child is doing well in all these areas then is it really such an issue as to what colour of clothes they might wear?

Many teenagers go through stages of dressing in a particular manner and most often it is just that, a stage, and they will probably grow out of it and look back and wonder why they ever dressed that way.

Try to encourage and support your child in areas such as sport. If your child is involved in sport or a similar activity it can be a good way for them to vent steam if they are angry and being occupied with sport can keep them out of trouble.

Let your teenager know that everyone makes mistakes and never let her feel like she is inferior for the mistakes she makes. Talk with her about some of the mistakes you may have made at her age and how everything turned out alright in the long run for you.

By focusing on the positives that your teenager has you will make her feel special and important in your life. She will know that she can talk to you without being constantly criticised and this will keep a good communicative relationship between you.

If your child were to get into trouble, it is important to know that they will come to you and talk to you about it, so by keeping a good positive relationship your teen will feel comfortable to talk to you about any problems they may be facing and they will be more likely to listen to your advice.